Have you done this?

You’ve applied for a job that seems perfect. You’ve interviewed. You’re excited. You don’t get the job. It hurts. Maybe you aimed too high. Maybe you aren’t as qualified as you thought.

You lower your expectations.

You continue to apply for jobs. You learn there are more applicants than jobs in your field. You experience a mix of ghosting, interviews without offers, sorry-no’s. You continue to lower your expectations. The next rejection won’t hurt as much if you don’t expect to hear back.

Soon your bar of expectations is on the floor and you trip over it every morning. There is something fundamentally wrong with you.

That’s a lie. Stop lowering your expectations.

Do you want to work for a company that refuses to return your calls? I don’t. Do you think it’s likely that a colleague, friend or family member would have brought to your attention the fact that you are utterly incapable of basic arithmetic before you applied to 18 positions in data analytics? I do.

Stop blaming yourself for your perceived deficiencies. There is nothing wrong with you. You are employable. You are someone’s dream hire. Don’t allow your low expectations to become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Raise your bar. You are not alone in this.